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There are several different types of people in this world.
1. Those who jump in and do what needs to be done.
2. Those who won’t do anything until they are asked to do it.
3. Those who will do number one and fill in for the person who should be doing number two.
And everything is fine until person number three finally burns out. That number three person is the one who tries to be the “one person super hero” by being, doing, and single-handedly managing it all. One day they wake up and realize that every ounce of joy they once had for the work they were doing is gone. They wake up each morning physically taxed, emotionally exhausted, and completely drained even before they hit the office door. And since they walk in with little strength to get through the day, they find it difficult to give their best. They’re self-esteem wanes. They walk around with feelings of guilt and shame which starts the snowball effect on job performance.
But it doesn’t have to be this way with a few steps:
1. Work smarter…not harder. Get rid of the “excess” work. Is it productive? Is it sustaining the organization? Is it doing what it’s supposed to do? Is it profitable? If it’s not necessary to the survival of a program or your time-GET RID OF IT. You’ve got to clean your work load just like you clean house. If it’s vital and necessary, plan on keeping it. If it’s not, clean it out, and be done with it. It is okay to let work go when it no longer benefits or meets the needs of the organization.
2. Consider delegation. Some of the work we do doesn’t necessarily need to be done BY us. There are other individuals who are just as qualified and experienced as we are to take on the task. Delegating gives us the opportunity to focus on the tasks that only we can do. We are free to work on our major responsibilities and roles with precision. Every staff member (and family member) should be participating in the “other duties as assigned” as sometimes delegating those “added” responsibilities is a way to ensure that one or two people are not doing all of them.
3. Establish volunteers. Establishing volunteers on a temporary and long-term basis, and offering family volunteering opportunities will increase your volunteerism rates. Temporary volunteers don’t mind being called for simple, quick, and short-term tasks (much like a teacher’s aide or substitute teacher). Long-term volunteers are committed to longer terms of service (much like serving on a board of directors) and they are aware of the roles they play, their importance to the success of the organization, and how long they are expected to remain in those roles. Family volunteering opportunities allow families to spend time together while serving, which is especially great for single parents, busy households with multiple children, and those busy times of year when families run from sporting event to sporting event. Don’t be afraid to be creative with the available volunteering opportunities, because you have the power to get everyone involved!
The idea is not to rely on just one of the possible solutions, but to combine and mix them. We all need to do a deep cleaning and clear out unproductive obligations, work loads, and tasks that no longer need to be there. We all benefit from delegating and working in teams where each can focus on their tasks to put joy back into their jobs and their work relationships each day. When we connect to volunteers and come together for a larger common goal, we get more done and with far greater reach than what we could attempt alone. And when we focus, connect, and work toward our prioritized and delegated goals, we minimize the risk of burnout for everyone on the team, because there is no “one person superhero” trying to do it all.
(This is just the beginning of warding off burnout in work and in general life and is not an all inclusive list of preventions. In the workshops the full scale of signs, symptoms, and preventions is presented.)
Then the way you live will always honor and please the Lord, and your lives will produce every kind of good fruit. All the while, you will grow as you learn to know God better and better.
~ Colossians 1:10, NLT
After reading this verse, I wondered how I am HONORING God in each of my life areas?
How do I HONOR God in my:
Spirituality (bible study, fellowship, prayer life, church, small group)
Relationships (with those I love and those I don’t even know)
Health (how I treat my body and maintain it)
Community (volunteering in community AND CHURCH)
Finances (how I spend, save, and donate)
Rest and Relaxation
Entertainment (how/where I spend time and the activities I take part in)
To Honor Him, requires that we not just spend time with Him once a week in church. It is a way of life that literally means we will live to meet not only higher standard, but as people who produce fruit in all our activities in each life area. And when we live to HONOR The Lord Our God, we will produce that fruit in every area, which leads right into getting to know Him on a deeper level.
My prayer this morning was posted on my Facebook wall:
Christine Pechstein My thoughts this morning are related to the JOY and depth of life we can experience each day when we look for how God is revealing himself to us as our Protector, Father, and Creator………My prayer is that He open our eyes to see and know Him.
My prayer was that He open our eyes to see and know Him. And we will get to know Him through the fruit we produce by living each of our life areas because we make a decision to stand firm and make sure the way we live honors God. Then we will get to know Him deeper and better, just as the passage says.
It is not by accident that I am so passionate about teaching life balance and Christ-Centered life management. It is because I know Him deeper, I have learned what my passion and purpose is. I couldn’t help but write about his and relate it to the life balancing. There is purpose to this. And that purpose and passion to bring HONOR to him by actively living it out does two things:
1. It makes me realize I still have work to do in my own life-always will
2. It makes that passion and fire in my belly to teach all of God’s people burn brighter
I want each person who reads this to ask:
How can I bring HONOR to God today in the choices I make? Will I produce fruit for Him in my nine life areas today?
Yesterday, I woke up bright and early. And again today, I woke up earlier than normal. In fact, today I woke up just in time to see the clock change from 6:59 to 7:00am. Had I woken up and looked at it one second later, I would’ve missed it. That’s how I know precisely what time I opened my eyes. Instantly I sat up, and began to think about the day ahead of me. I checked my email, glanced at my web stats and sales reports, and stopped.
I needed to wake up and prepare for a meeting. I grabbed my morning Pepsi, my Bible, and headed out to my deck. I read and reflected. And after a period of time, I closed my Bible, closed my eyes, and laid out all of my thoughts to God. And then I got quiet. I just meditated, with my eyes closed, and took turns thinking, and then listening to the quiet sounds around me.
I had a meeting with God. It was just me taking time to sit and listen. Yes, I could hear the busy birds chirping happily in my Maple tree and the sound of the winds rustling through the leaves, but it was just the sound of Nature and the things that God created that I was hearing. I’d think, stop and listen. And think a little more, listen for a longer period of time, pray, and listen. And then it was eventually just a stillness in my head where I found myself lost in my listening.
What I noticed more than anything was that I became completely focused on Christ in that time. I focused on what is important to me-my priority which is living for Him, becoming more like Him, and being used in this life for His purpose. I feel balanced. I feel prepared. I feel confident and hopeful as I start today. It’is what will help me stay focused as I encounter thousands of distractions, temptations, and otherwise unimportant things that will approach me at any given time during my day. I must stay laser focused to achieve the mission God has placed before me. To do so requires balance and focus.
Life balance is not some gimmick. It’s a real way to live your life and completely focus on what your priorities are. And, since mine is living a Christ-centered life, I am designing more and more of my work to reflect that. It seems that with every meeting, I am getting further and further away from just the regular business models. I am working more and more for the Kingdom of God. I am balanced with my priorities, and how I live and spend my time is a direct reflection of my focus through my balance.
Oh, I will continue to teach and present in the business world…I am not leaving. I was thinking after my meeting with God this morning that more and more of my writing is directly related to balancing and the Kingdom of God. That is where my focus is. That is my priority. That is my PASSION. And my life balancing and life management is keeping me there. Truthfully, those are gifts from God, and I am using them for His glory, and I am so honored and humbled.
I am so happy that God reminded me in our meeting of the importance of what I teach in my workshops. And the best part? Teaching in and for the House of God. Very humbling.
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Each year when the warm weather starts to return, I find myself searching through my closet. I alternate between spring and winter clothing, and after a few weeks of this my closet and drawers desperately need to be reorganized. Actually, I find this to be true after each season has come and gone.
Since I’m a person who naturally can’t stand chaos and disorganization, I find myself cleaning stuff out and rearranging quite often. I believe a lot of that is just part of being a life balance coach. It is a plus though. Each time I clean something out, reclaim space, and eliminate what I no longer need, I also regain my time. By cleaning out the old, I don’t have to root, sort, and hunt for things I can find quickly!
But, there is something so much more important that needs a good cleaning several times per year that often gets neglected. It’s more important than any closet, dresser, or basement. It’s your life.
I created the 30 Day Challenge, a six page packet to aid individuals in reaching their goals by planning action steps and a plan based on what they want each life area to look like. They follow these specific steps week by week for the next 30 days to become what they dream in each area. But, as I worked through one of mine in the life area of community, I realized something completely different.
I stared at the calendar page with a “deer in the headlights” look on my face. By utilizing this calendar technique just to chart my activities for a couple of months, I realized how much time I was spending in one area of my life, but was too out of balance in the rest. Me, a life balance coach, who practices what she preaches in the coaching world, had become so far out of balance! How’d that happen? It happens to everyone, and I mean everyone, as time progresses.
We volunteer for one or two activities, and pretty soon we’ve volunteered for five or six without realizing it. We promise someone we will help out temporarily, which quickly becomes permanent. We try to help others by running errands, adding activities, and becoming involved in projects. For me, I realized how quickly I added activities that began to compete with my time with God, my time with my kids, and my time focusing on what God calls me to do. Personally, when I get frustrated, it means that I am out of balance. Balance equals peace where imbalance leads to stress. To destress, I need to rebalance my priorities and my time based on my priorities.
I know I control my time, and I was ready to reclaim it. I was ready to reorganize, and soon, I realized I also had to eliminate. Yes, the hard part was shaving some obligations and activities off my to-do list. But, I also as a coach understood that if I chose not to eliminate some things, I would have no hope of rebalancing properly. Who would I have to blame for my overcommitted schedule? No one but me. But, wait! I’m a leader! How can I possibly say, “enough?” Easy. Pick up the phone and be honest. Send an email.
Do whatever it takes to rebalance, reshift, and focus your time. I honestly knew that I was becoming diluted. And when I’m diluted, no one is getting quality anything. God is not getting quality time from me, my kids aren’t getting quality dinners and are eating too much fast food, and I am not able to focus the gifts and talents He provided me with to do His will.
That is enough to make me say, “enough!” It doesn’t mean that I have to sit at home and do nothing. Not at all. I am still very much involved in several activities at church and in the community. But, I have cut them back by 50%.
So, how’s it going after spring cleaning my busy life? It’s fantastic as always! My oldest daughter commented tonight about how each evening this week has been fun and relaxed like our weekends. Even though we have school and work keeping us busy, our evenings have been full of good food (and yes, I’m even spending the time in the kitchen to cook it!), the type of laughter that makes our faces hurt, and the peace that comes from a balanced life.
If you are not balancing your life, controlling your time, and maintaining your priorities on a regular basis, you will experience stress, illness, fatigue, burnout, and compassion fatigue. The world will not restore what it takes out of you. The only restoration source for your internal well is Christ. Do whatever it takes to realign, rebalance, and keep your focus
I took a walk after dinner the other night with my youngest daughter. She rode her scooter, and I decided to ride with her which was comical. Two people on a scooter built for one, and every time we hit a crack in the sidewalk, we’d screech to a halt and just about fall over each other.
As we rode around the block, I quickly realized how out of shape I am, so I decided to walk. I haven’t tried to be that limber since I ran track back in high school. I knew I would feel that the next day! Yes, that muscle burn was setting in.
As I walked I noticed that the trees are budding. Soon the leaves will start emerging. This thought process started evolving, and the following is what I ended up with:
What if we had leaves like the trees, yet we didn’t shed our leaves at the end of a season? If trees held on to their old leaves, because they suited them last season, would they really need to grow new leaves for the new season? Could this be related to the human seasons of life?
Oh, you bet! Yippee! I got so excited as I began to see this connection. I started to look at every tree that I walked past!
As people, we have opportunities to serve, work, and volunteer. We have gifts and talents that we can use in different areas, and we can look to God for His will and purpose. Those are the leaves of a season. But, what if some of our leaves are to be shed? What if we are to shed them to let new leaves and buds start to bloom in our lives, so God can equip us with new opportunities and directions?
If we never shed the old, how will we ever see the new or find time for it? And if we do all of it, by holding onto all of the old activities while adding the new, wouldn’t we become so weighed down that we’d eventually break? Would this cause disease to set in, stunt our growth, or confuse us?
Most definitely! As I continued my walk, I got goose bumps. I actually call them God bumps, because they are different than just a chill or normal goose bump. They stem from the soul and radiate outward from that internal place inside, and man, they run deep. I began to see how important life balance is in a new way.
Of course, I know life balance is important. Of course, I know how to do it. Of course, I must maintain balance just like everyone else. But, for the first time in my career, I saw it from a God perspective, and I learned that we must pray, align with God, reprioritize, let go of the old, clean and clear some of our life activities and commitments, and expect new and exciting things to blossom each season.