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After speaking with a few individuals about their Thanksgiving holiday, I decided to share a few resources this month that I believe will be very helpful to surviving the holidays. As a coach, I get to speak to people from all backgrounds and walks of life with various experiences, but one thing is pretty consistent despite those differences: There are times and seasons when life is just too much and help to get through those seasons is welcomed. So, here are a few resources to start. I will add more, so check back throughout the month of December. Feel free to share them with others! And let’s make this a GREAT Christmas season!
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More to come throughout December!
Today while sitting in worship, I was greatly reminded of the blessings that come with friendships. I’m not talking about acquaintances, but true and dear friends. Not the “I hope to get something out of you” types of people, but the “I will take a piece of myself and give it to you” type of friends. Not the romantic friendships, but rather genuine friendships based on more than mere infatuations and trends, or the availability of the moment. I’m talking about those who stick it out between thick and thin, make sacrifices of their time and resources, and those will invest a part of what they have in terms of helping you grow through life. That’s the type of friendship I was reminded of today.
God has blessed me with just a small handful of those I truly consider my friends. They are the one’s who have endured my sense of humor, adventure, excitement over the silly little things, prayed with me and prayed over me, have seen me cry, and have listened to the questions I simply ponder as I live each day. Those few friends are my richest blessings.
In the next few weeks, I have a dear friend who is leaving. My friend Jon is traveling to Haiti, not just to visit, but to live there as a missionary for the next year before moving on to his next adventure. His profile on Facebook makes me smile. It now says, “Employed by God.” It’s incredible to witness and share this exciting part of his life as it unfolds. But, part of me is really, really sad.
Part of me has wondered who I’m going to pick on when he goes? LOL…yes, this is just part of our friendship!
Who will be ever so sarcastic? Jon is quick witted and very sarcastic. It’s a gift, and he uses it well!
Today in church, a few things hit me. Yes, a really good friend of mine is leaving. But as he made investments as a friend into my life, I also made them into his. Even as good friends, it is still give and take. So, though he is leaving, he is taking a part of me with him. And as he has been such an encouragement and believed in me as I unfolded my business and adventures right here, a part of him will remain with me. Suddenly, the idea of true friendships began to click. When our dear friends find it’s time to move on and follow their calling, or they find they have to relocate, we never really part with a person. The time they invested in encouraging us, mentoring us, and even slapping us into shape when we needed it are never lost. They are not gone. They are little tiny treasures in the forms of blessings that God allows us to experience through those very friendships. And these tiny experiences and bits we take with us. So, when someone passes away or moves on and follows their path in life, we are not losing them entirely. Little pieces of everything they invested in us moves with us. And us in them. And though one friend is leaving, I have been blessed with new ones, and so the cycle of investing into people continues.
Over time, it seems that all of these little investments into people end up in many different parts of the world. And as the people travel, so do the investments they received. Eventually, those investments can enter into many, many lives without us knowing it and soon we have shaped many more lives because of them. It was such a neat day for experiencing those blessings that come in the form of pure friendships. They are not many. But they are priceless.
I am so grateful for those who have invested in my life. Those who have believed in me and encouraged me along the way when the path was nothing more than a cliff with a tiny rope to hang on to. I am so grateful for those who have endured my wacky sense of humor and passionate, you can do it, attitude. Life is an adventure full of risks, full of uncertainty, and full of people who don’t truly understand true and deep friendship. But, with a few good friends and their selfless investments, the risk in the adventure is so worthwhile.
After all, if you’re too afraid to lose what you have, you can never give to another person. And that’s not how we were designed to live. Invest in others. Get up and move toward what you really want in life. And never be afraid to give of yourself to those who need you. You have a purpose in their lives. Chances are you are a small part of what they will take to their destination. And you are taking a part of them to yours.
On a side note:
You can keep up with my friend Jon Alexander here on his website: newplanalife.com and if you are interested in donating or supporting the missionary efforts, please consider doing so. He will can take the support we provide him and invest it into the lives of those he touches in Haiti as he follows God’s will and answers the call. And please remember to keep him and all the missionaries in your prayers. They need us to pray for courage, strength, stamina, and God’s will be done!
I was thinking the other day about some non-Christian friends. I wanted to know what it would be like to have friends who believed in God if I didn’t. In fact, I wondered what it would be like for someone to even be my friend if they were not a Christian. As I pondered these thoughts, I realized that many would probably think I’d try to push religion or my view points on to them.
Nope. Being a Christian means that:
I won’t judge them.
I won’t force anything onto them.
I will be friendly and genuine.
I will help them when I can just the same as I’d do for my Christian friends.
I will comfort them when they need it.
I will laugh with them, but not at them.
And the number one thing that I do for my non-Christian friends? I pray.
I pray for them even though they don’t realize it. So, my non-Christian friends…
You have a prayer warrior on your side.
Even if you don’t believe in the power of prayer your Christian friends do. They can’t fix things for you, but they know someone who can. And you can know Him to. Prayer IS powerful.
This has been a week full of tragedy and turmoil. Friends have been hit hard in so many aspects of their lives, and no matter which direction I turn, I see the opposition in full force. Satan seems to be lurking everywhere!
Yesterday a new thought process began as I learned of specific events affecting someone I see day after day. Did I know? Should I have known? Could I have done anything? Did I just assume that things would be just fine? Did I take the time to ask? Why not?
Those questions have been circling around in my head for two days now. Do we focus on reaching out to only those who are outside our churches or our immediate circle of friends? Should we make sure that we are reaching out to those we see day after day, Sunday after Sunday, bible study after bible study? After all, just because people are Christians and part of our church family, certainly doesn’t mean that their lives are all just peachy.
People within our own circles-at home, at work, at church, and in our communities in general all have needs and can use a shoulder, an affirmation, or just a simple, “Hey, how are you doing?” From time to time, all people need the same. It doesn’t matter if it’s a pastor, a church member, or a stranger. Why? It’s a little thing called humanism. We are all humans. We all live in a broken world. We all face the same evil opposition that lurks in the dark.
Tonight at bible study, during our prayer time, I thought about how friendships in Christ would look. If I were to be a genuine friend in the spirit of Christ to people-what would that look like? After our study ended, a friend came to sit by me and we began to chat. It was the first time all day that I could open up, talk about the heaviness I felt, celebrate a victory of hers with her (Yay, God!), and take a deep breath in relief. As soon as I left the building, the title to this blog entry struck me (thanks, God!)
Being a friend in Christ to those we know and to those we meet who have needs, means that we are not afraid to be with them only in the safety of the light. It means that when the opposition is in full force, when darkness tries to creep in and paralyze us in fear, we take them by the hand and check under their bed for the monster. We stand by them and pray with them as we walk to the closet together to make sure that the boogey-man is not lurking in there. We call upon Jesus together no matter how dark or scary it may be. We stand together.
Being a friend in Christ is just being there and having the courage to say, “I’ll stand and pray with you.”
Tonight I will sleep soundly knowing that there was a person who helped me check under my bed. After this week’s events, I’ll be sure I do the same for those I come into contact with. I think I got the point. Thanks, God!